This is an interesting article published which addresses the issue of co-sleeping. Joe and I love that Hallie Rose sleeps next to us every night, and wouldnt have it any other way. We also are also very opposed to the belief that a baby should learn to "self sothe", or be left to "cry it out" at night.
Research suggests that letting a baby cry for long periods can cause emotional distress which can affect the person later in life. There is a known hormone, (cortisol), that is released in the brain after long periods of crying take place. Cortisol is also known as the STRESS hormone. When released in adults, we know there are certain things that can take place. Such as impaired cognitive function, suppressed thyroid function, Blood sugar imbalances, higher blood pressure, lower inflammatory and immunity responses in the body..the list goes on and on.
So, knowing that the stress hormone, cortisol, causes these things in adults, why would we think that a baby would be any different? Joe and I believe in our hearts, that it is not right to let our baby cry and that babies look to the parents to feel loved and secure at all times.
If a baby is crying, they need something. If that something is to be held and cuddled, then thats what the baby deserves to have. They cry because they want the warmth and security of their Mom or Dad, and when they dont get that, they cry some more, and more. Finally the baby gives up and falls asleep.
We have been told by a professional who has studied parent/child attachment for 20 years, that babies who are left to cry, feel abandoned and sometimes end up high anxiety individuals with emotional disconnections. When the baby "gives up", and falls asleep, they shut down emotionally in that department. They were looking for love, or a need to be met, and did not receive it. Then, when the parent does this time after time, the baby learns not to express their emotions and is trained not to communicate these wants. She told us a baby is not physiologically programed to "self sothe", and that they look to parents for that.
I cant imagine leaving my baby girl to cry herself to sleep. I will not do that, ever. She will always know that I am there for her when she needs me. I will cuddle her, love on her, and rock her to sleep until she doesnt want that from me anymore. She will never feel abandoned or scared because I selfishly left her to "cry it out", for my own convenience. I will always put her needs first. That I promise, sugar bear.
Back 11 years ago when I had Jalen, alot of people were doing the "cry it out" method. In my heart I didnt feel it was right to let my baby cry, so I didnt. I also felt it was completely natural for him to sleep with me, so thats where he slept. It worked out great! I was able to nurse him right away if he woke up, and I was always there for him. My Mother did the same for me when I was a child, and for that I am grateful.
There is so many different opinions about this subject, but I guess the way I feel is, when all else fails, do what your motherly instincts tell you. Mine tell me the right thing is to be there for your baby, always.
Sleeping with Your Baby
James J. McKenna, PhD
From New Beginnings, Vol. 26 No. 1, 2009, pp. 4-9
Cosleeping refers to many different ways babies sleep in close emotional and physical contact with their parents, usually within arm's reach. It is very important to acknowledge that cosleeping does not simply refer to bedsharing, for example, but it refers also to roomsharing, or any situation in which parents and infants are within arm's reach but not necessarily sleeping on the same surface.
There is no right way to cosleep, nor does cosleeping occur in one correct configuration. While some ways of cosleeping are safer than other ways, some are not safe at all. One thing is for sure -- regardless of whether or not you sleep on the same or different surface, or in the same or different room, remember that no one knows your baby better than you, and no one can anticipate and respond to the immediate needs of your baby as well as you.
It is true that we need to be very conscious of how we cosleep. If bedsharing, how we arrange bedding, other children, pets, and furniture must be done with care. In order to protect and promote the well-being of your baby, you will need to be aware of safe cosleeping strategies, particularly if you choose to bedshare. Mothers' bodies certainly evolved to sleep next to their infants, but one potential problem is that the recent diverse and complex furniture on which Western mothers and families sleep did not. Other dangerous conditions include when mothers smoke and bedshare, and when any adult in the bed takes drugs or alcohol.
How and where your family chooses to cosleep can be adapted, though, or modified, to what you and your baby need in order to sleep as comfortably and safely as possible.
Sleeping with Your Baby Is Normal
For most of human history (and before written records were kept) covering hundreds of thousands of years, mothers have effectively combined cosleeping and breastfeeding to provide for their babies' immediate social, psychological, and physical needs. Whether born in Indiana, USA or Papua New Guinea, human infants are especially vulnerable, slow developing, and must rely on their parents' touch, carrying, and feeding for survival. Most mammals are born with 60 to 90 percent of adult brain size. Humans are born with just 25 percent of adult brain size. Compared with other mammals, human infants take the longest time to grow up, and they remain in a biologically dependent state for the longest period of time. In this immature state, human babies are, for the first few months of life at least, unable to efficiently regulate their body temperature without mother being in proximity, and they are unable to make effective antibodies found in mothers' milk to protect themselves from bacteria and viruses. Human infants cannot control their bowels, speak, make tools, digest large molecules, or walk. In the words of anthropologist Ashley Montague, human infants are "extero-gestators" (1), meaning they complete their gestation after birth, and someone's got to be there to help with it.
Due to this extreme human developmental immaturity, babies require parental (especially maternal) smell, touch, sounds, and movement in order to feel secure and to have their physical needs met at an optimal level. All primate infants, including humans, biologically expect to be in close contact and proximity with their caregivers. In fact, human infants are at birth not adapted to the outside physical environment, but only to what mother's body offers the infant. There is no such thing as giving a human infant too much contact or affection -- they thrive on touch, and grow more the more they get of it (2). When deprived of these sensations, a baby will use her primary survival response -- crying -- and will produce cortisol, a stress hormone, as she attempts to attract the attention of her parents.
Cosleeping, traditionally an extension of our human need for infant-parent closeness, is significant to our evolutionary endurance. Anthropological studies that examined the sleeping customs of families in tropical, non-industrialized cultures have discovered that all of these hunter-gatherer and tribal-level societies share sleep with their babies (3). Researchers consider these societies to be more similar ecologically and adaptively to prehistoric cultures, whose members coslept in order to ensure their infants' survival and well being. Thus, cosleeping is a very, very old practice among human beings.
It is only in recent history that mothers in a relatively small area of the world have the dubious luxury to ask two basic questions: "How will my baby be fed?" and "Where will my baby sleep?" The advent of these questions stems from the discovery and production of baby formulas, and from society's emphasis on the alleged benefits of bottle-feeding. Bottle-feeding enables mothers to spend more time apart from their babies, and with rising affluence in the middle class and an increased value on individualism, separate bedrooms for parents and children became more common and culturally fashionable. By the mid-1900s, it became very common, for the first time in human history, for babies to be bottle-fed and then placed to sleep on their stomachs (to promote uninterrupted sleep) in a room far from the sensory range and supervision of their parents. It did not work out very well for babies. Culture changed, but the human infant's need for mother's milk and contact with the mother's body did not.
Along with this trend came another alarming development -- babies in increasing numbers were not waking up. Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), for which we scientists still have no explanation, grew. We still do not know the exact causes of SIDS, also known as cot or crib death, only that there may well be many causes that interact with a range of possible environmental stressors, which include maternal smoking, not breastfeeding, and the prone (stomach) infant sleep position. SIDS is diagnosed only following a full toxicological report and post-mortem analysis, when all other causes of death have been ruled out. SIDS remains, then, a "diagnosis by exclusion." When SIDS was first defined as a medical entity in 1963, the death rate from this tragic syndrome was between two to three babies per 1,000 live births in most Western nations. SIDS emerged in Western societies alongside never before tried infant care innovations: artificial milk or cow's milk, prone infant sleep, and infants sleeping alone in rooms by themselves. Coupled with increasingly more mothers smoking before and after their pregnancies, a real SIDS epidemic was in the making.
In many Asian cultures, where cosleeping and breastfeeding (as well as low maternal smoking rates) are the norms, SIDS is either considered rare or is simply unheard of. A baby put to sleep alone in his own room is an image seen only in the last hundred years or so and only in industrialized Western societies. Our culture's emphasis on independence, individualism, and self-reliance has helped drive the ideology that babies should sleep alone. Without any developmental evidence supporting such conclusions, it was merely assumed that forced solitary sleeping for infants and children led automatically to secure, independent adults without any sleeping problems. These assumptions have hurt us, but it is not too late to return to doing what cultures across the world consider the norm: cosleeping.
Cosleeping Is Good for Babies
A baby who sleeps in proximity to her parents is reassured by the continual reminders of the caregivers' presence -- touches, smell, movement, warmth, and, by virtue of increased breastfeeding, taste. These sensations provide emotional security for the baby, and, if the newborn is breastfeeding, a steady supply of signals and cues (such as fragrances from mother's milk) that promote more breastfeeding and increased nourishment. If your baby's well-being is threatened -- for example, if he is choking or struggling to move a blanket away from his face -- you will (if attentive) be able to help right away. In such a protected and nurturing environment, your baby will benefit from an almost immediate response to his or her needs.
When babies, especially before they can verbalize their needs, do not have their needs met, they cry. Crying evolved as an alarm signal reserved for critical circumstances involving pain, hunger, or fear, and it is used to elicit mothers' retrieval behavior. Years ago it was learned that prolonged crying decreases oxygenation and increases heart rate, which in turn then augments cortisol, a stress hormone.
Some studies have suggested that elevated levels of cortisol in infancy can cause physical changes in the brain, prompting a greater vulnerability to social attachment disorders. At the very least, the energy lost in crying could be better put into growth or maintenance (4). Babies who cosleep are much less likely to cry themselves to sleep, or even to cry at all, and so avoid releasing an excess of this hormone. However, many parents are now encouraged to use "controlled crying techniques" to manage infants and young children who do not settle alone, who wake at night, or who settle only if held or permitted to sleep in proximity or contact with parents. So concerned is the Australian Association of Infant Mental Health about the use of such techniques that the organization issued the following statement: "Controlled crying is not consistent with what infants need for their optimal emotional and psychological health, and may have unintended negative consequences" (5).
Babies are warmer when they sleep next to their moms, reducing the need for heavy or numerous blankets. Throughout the night mothers and infants are exchanging sensory experiences, such as body heat, that serve to regulate the baby's state. When a newly born infant is removed from his mother's uterus, for example, the baby can experience a loss of up to one degree Fahrenheit of body temperature, generally explained yet again by the production of stress hormones. This drop in temperature can reduce immunity, making a baby more susceptible to infectious diseases, and takes energy away from growth and development in an attempt to regulate the baby's temperature. One study found that among 11- to 16-week-old infants, babies who slept alone had a lower average axillary (underarm) skin temperature than babies who breastfed and slept alongside their mothers (6).
Babies who sleep with their mothers and breastfeed spend less time in the deepest stages of sleep (stage three and stage four), from which arousal is more difficult should the baby need to awaken quickly to terminate a dangerous apnea (episodes in which one stops breathing). Instead, cosleeping babies spend more time in lighter stages of sleep (stage one and stage two). Light stage sleep is thought to be physiologically more appropriate for young infants, and more natural and conducive to safe sleep for babies, because it is easier to awaken to terminate apneas than it is when babies are in deeper stages of sleep. The shorter durations of deeper stage sleep promoted by cosleeping can potentially protect those infants born with arousal deficiencies (suspected to be involved in SIDS). Moreover, cosleeping significantly increases the total number of infant arousals as the baby gets a lot of practice in arousing to mother's external sounds, movements, and touches. This increase in arousals may improve her ability to develop awakening skills that can prove handy should the infant's oxygen supply decrease following a breathing pause. The baby not only stirs in relationship to mother's movements, but the smells of mother's milk nearby also contributes to the infant's tendency to remain in light sleep for a longer period of time (7).
Both pre-term and full-term infants can benefit significantly from the physical presence of their parents, although I do not recommend that premature infants actually sleep in the bed with their mothers due to their increased vulnerability and small size. Nonetheless, aside from the ability of infants to learn at a faster rate due to the greater number of social interactions and frequent communicative patterns that come with increased contact and proximity, scientific studies show that when babies rest on their mothers' or fathers' chests, enjoying skin-to-skin contact, they breathe more regularly, use energy more efficiently, grow faster, and experience less stress (8). In several recent reviews, Dr. Sari Goldenstein, Dr. Makhuaul, and Dr. Helen Ball point out that skin-to-skin contact, sometimes referred to as kangaroo care, leads to earlier discharge of premature infants, fewer apneas, and fewer bradycardia incidents (periods of slow heart rates) (9). Maternal contact is known to act as a pain killer for newborns and increased touching and holding help infants to recover rapidly from birth-related fatigue (10). Spontaneous breastfeeding is also facilitated by contact as well as serving to encourage the mother to continue to breastfeed for longer periods of time per breastfeeding session (11). Sleep duration increased among infants who experienced skin-to-skin care, and they seemed less agitated in general while enjoying more stable heart rates and breathing patterns leading to greater overall oxygenation (12).
There are also benefits for mothers. Skin-to-skin contact is associated with a significant increase in maternal oxytocin levels (a hormone released during breastfeeding) in two Swedish studies (13), which suggests that uterine contraction would be enhanced and milk ejection improved, to the benefit of both mother and infant. Finally, there is a report that skin-to-skin contact is also associated with lowered maternal anxiety and more efficient participation of mothers in caring for their newborn infants (14).
Letting a baby cry herself to sleep is advice given to parents with the goal of raising a child that is self-reliant, able to comfort herself, and comfortable with aloneness. Researchers are now finding that in extreme cases leaving children to cry without offering any comfort can cause lasting damage to their brains. Persistent distress as a child is being linked with higher rates of depression and emotional problems later in life. Many child psychologists now believe that babies know best, and parents should follow the instinct that directs them to try to soothe a crying baby.
As a developmental extension of the skin-to-skin experience, parent-infant bedsharing, when practiced safely, can be a warm and snuggly experience that many parents enjoy. However, it is much more than that -- it is a biologically driven process whereby the baby's body temperature is regulated and steady breathing is promoted in part by the sounds of mother's breathing and by the infant feeling the mother's rhythmic chest movements. In many biological studies these cues are shown to act as "hidden" stimuli by which the young of other mammals time their next breath (15, 16)!
Even the mother's expelled carbon dioxide (CO2) is not wasted in a cosleeping situation; the amount of CO2 the mother expires in her breath acts to stimulate infant breathing (17). Expelled CO2 appears to act as a potential back-up should the baby's own internal drive to breathe falters or slows, since the baby's nasal regions can both detect and respond to the presence of this gas by breathing faster.
And there are still more advantages to parent-infant contact. During skin-to-skin contact, the infant body stimulates just the right brain cells to be nurtured and connected to each other. In a sense, nighttime cosleeping can be said to extend the needed micro-environment that during the day also fosters a variety of social, communicative, and emotional skills because baby is being monitored and protected. A mother is certainly more than a service provider; she is the entity around which the human infant was designed not just to be awake, but to sleep. The English psychologist Donald Winnicott spoke of the baby's profound dependence on others for life-sustaining support when he said, "There is no such thing as a baby, there is a baby and someone." When considering what infants need or trying to explain what infants can or cannot do, nothing makes sense except in relation to the mother's body.
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