So, I just read a post on someone elses page (The Rockin' Mamma Blog,) , and it made me want to write about what is was like being a single Mom, and what its like having a husband, or 2 parent household.
Two totally different worlds! I will just say right off the bat, it is WAY easier, better, whatever word you want to use, having a husband there to help raise a child.
I was a single parent to J-bird for 8 years.
I met Joe when J-bird was only 1 1/2 years old, but we were not exclusive, committed, and were on-and-off for a looong time.
Those years were very hard on me and Im sure hard on Jalen also.
I was trying to make a life for the 2 of us, so I was in nursing school, which was one of the hardest things Ive ever done.
Not to mention trying to raise a child, pay the bills, and just plain keep it together. Luckily, I can say I made it through, and I am very proud of that accomplishment.
I know in my heart everything happens for a reason, and I now truely believe that Joe and I were not meant to be at the time we met.
Back then I thought we were, but if we hadnt broken up, I probably would have never gained my independence, and went to nursing school.
That being said, it was a very stressful time for me. I was not the best parent in the world. I yelled alot, said things I now regret, and was not the patient Mom that Jalen deserved.
At the time, all I wanted was for Joe to come rescue me.
I wanted him to love me and Jalen. I wanted him to be Jalen's Dad.
I did not want to be the Mom and the Dad, but I had to.
It was hard. Very hard.
Now that we are finally married, he adopted J-bird, we adopted little Sugar bear, and have our little family in order, things are looking up.
Joe is there for me when I need him. He is a very hands on father.
When he sees that I am getting impatient or irritable, he will take over or step in.
When I have had a fussy baby all day (doesnt happen real often), the laundry needs done, and I have no dinner plans, he comes home with a smile and immediately relieves me.
He will take the baby, start helping Jalen with his homework, and will let me do whatever I want.
That may be starting dinner, taking a bath, or retreating to my room for a moment of silence.
He is the best! I really mean that.
So, THANK YOU JOE for just being you.
THANK YOU for being a good husband and father.
THANK YOU for loving Jalen and Hallie Rose the way you do.
Our life is much more enriched with you in it.
I love you.